Newly married – hopes and reality

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A relationship and marriage are the wishes of most people. An alliance between people and families. There is a traditional marriage and hope for the continuity of generations. During the marriage ceremony nearby there is the experience of wish fulfillment, dreams and hope for a new beginning, a successful and happy. Allowing marriages to grow, grow, flourish and prosper.
After the euphoria marriage ceremony and the accompanying dreams, reality penetrates perfect picture. Life partners enter new elements, new sensations, questions and issues that put the couple unfamiliar situations or situations they are familiar but repressed and concealed because of the occupation and the organization of the wedding.

To return to everyday reality and routine, may accompany financial difficulties due to commitments couple took wedding preparations, flat sheet. Other difficulties may arise from a change in lifestyle and the need to regroup in a relationship. For example, being a guest and hosted by the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents, relocate the relationships and social connections – friends and girlfriends. Sometimes the couple must give up social contact and friendly they had in the past, spending habits were previously each partner etc.

Throughout our lives we need to adapt to changes. Marriage life we ‚Äč‚Äčlive in a single-life experience of adapting to a life of couple and family life. The ability to go through the process of adaptation to change, predicts the likelihood of a good relationship, friendship, contains, supportive and thoughtful.

As mentioned above, in order to stand the test of adaptation to a new lifestyle, we need to be aware of a number of patterns:
* Communication – the partners to be able to define clearly the difficulties, problems and needs. This media can listen to your partner and understand his words.
* Printing to deal with difficulties – life throws us challenges at various levels (economic, health, child rearing, etc.). The couple jointly cope with difficulties and not “run away” to deal with and keep your spouse angry, frustrated, hurt and loneliness difficult. You can learn and internalize patterns of coping, so that we can apply them throughout life.
* Expectations – each partner comes coexistence with different expectations. When there is too big a gap between the couple, this will cause frustration, anger, tension and strife. Therefore, the couple coordinating expectations, create a reasonable interval between the expectations of the couple to be able to successfully deal with the gaps.
* Maintain proportions – not exacerbate and exaggerate sharply everyday problems. The couple help each other see things in the right proportion with respect for the partner concerned.
* A clear definition of marital system over other connections. Literature, this process is set to say goodbye and differentiation. The couple when they internalize laptops, they become emotionally separate unit and mom and dad will put in place the couple’s relationship is different from the other connections. Differentiation and separation are an important key to the success of the marriage and building a family double and enabling healthy growth.
During the marriage, we must constantly adapt to new situations and changes in emotional and other difficulties in the couple?

On the emotional level and personality as the couple live together and get to know each other, disguised habits revealed. Begin to rise qualities that we were not aware of them, peeling masks and a couple more are exposed to each other for all their advantages and disadvantages: rigid, flexible, cynicism, anxiety, fears and so on.

With downloading Poor thing “may be a great relief. Feel more confidence in a relationship, you can be more genuine and authentic. However, this openness has a price – is it a spouse where we fell in love and we have chosen? This can create conflict and tension between conflicting needs and desires. Thus, we have to maintain a balance between authenticity without a mask and conduct a “mask” in the marriage life. Maintaining this balance is an art life of marriage, it lets not get your spouse for granted all the time.
Many events Shakers marriage and require adapting to change. One of the most significant is the entry of the first child to the family. It is a source of great happiness, joy and sense of pride of continuity. However, the first child brings with it a powerful experience unlike any other – the dream, hope and joy merge into fatigue, worry, anxiety and so on. Until the birth of the first child, the couple were in the contact center. After birth there is a need to adapt and give way to the newborn. The baby becomes the center of life, while parents should be all in the emerging new parenthood. Although it is a choice to have a child, fulfilling the desire and self-fulfillment through the role of a parent, it’s emotional and physical burden that could lead to an erosion of marriage life. Therefore, it is important to continue to nurture, cherish, maintain, worry Babies “additional and equally important – relationship.

Since most of our lives we need to change, acceptance and adaptation to new situations, the question is who will succeed not only to survive but also to enjoy a satisfying and complex change processes. In order to succeed to continue nurturing and strengthening marriage, we need to trust in a relationship, optimism, self-expression and fulfillment, clear boundaries in relationship and social connections. It also requires the ability to discuss and talk openly and honestly about feelings, frustration, anger and pain, without fear of criticism and judgment.
Good relationships necessary to the preservation of the ability to dialogue ever – personally and interpersonally. Dialogue will allow each partner to emotional responses, strengthening and empowerment, where everyone defines himself in the marital relationship. Fruitful dialogue, each spouse learns to recognize itself in the spousal relationship, to respect his feelings and his partner, be attentive and supportive.

When marital problems arise, please contact couples therapy which will be handled any problems arise at each stage of marriage. Usually there is a process of strengthening and problems manifested in full force for a long time from the date of emergence. One or both of the spouses takes time to understand that there is a difficulty in relationships, they need help. Couples therapy will be a broad picture of the couple and the family system, its history. From the bigger picture could be to identify the best and most positive elements of the couple, as well as the points Hhkosi and weaknesses. Therefore, it is important to seek treatment before the outbreak of the great crisis of trust in a relationship.